Dear Birth Mother,
The words 'thank you' are not enough to express to you the gratitude I feel towards you for considering me to be your baby's mom. I know that what you are doing isn’t easy but I feel that you are choosing adoption because you love and care for your child and you want to give him/her a better life and a stable loving family. Hopefully, I will be the family you want your baby to have.
I immigrated to the United States from Greece when I was 14 years old. I grew up in Astoria, Queens and because of my parents loving and supportive upbringing, I was able to do great in life, earn a college education and become a teacher. To be honest with you, one of the reasons why I became a teacher was to satisfy my other life dream of being a mom. I believe that teaching has taught me so many things that relate to parenting, and it has exposed me to different children with different personalities and needs. I have been teaching in the same school now for the past 18 years and I know my career has helped me and prepared me to raise a child. It is my belief that all children need to be listened to, loved and given attention consistently. I try to always sit with my students and work with them one on one because I see that works best. Most of them have parents who work a lot to support them, so I feel it’s my duty to step in and give them time so that with patience and my knowledge I can help them do better in school. I don’t know if my letter is the first or tenth letter you read but I promise you that if you make my dream to be a mom come true, your child will be raised by a woman who is ready financially and emotionally, and a woman who has a lot of knowledge and experience with children.
My three-year-old nephew means the world to me. I usually pick him up on Saturday morning and we spend the day together. Being around him confirms that being the best mom I can be is one of my purposes in life. My family and I are very close, and we enjoy doing things together such as going on vacation, celebrating holidays and birthdays, having dinner over each other’s homes and definitely talk on the phone about our daily lives. I’m writing this because I want you to know that your child will have the same upbringing from me. My parents, friends and relatives are all very supportive of my decision to adopt. Please know that if you give me this joy your baby will be amongst people who will provide, love and be involved in his/her life. I am actually very lucky that we all live within a 2 miles radius so it’s very convenient to plan time together.
Besides my immediate family I am fortunate to live across the street from my godson and his family. I moved in my neighborhood about 9 years ago. It is a wonderful, safe and multicultural area. There are many parks, playgrounds and shopping places within walking distance of my home. I love walking and so I take either my nephew or my godson to the park often. I believe that children need to be outdoors, surrounded by nature, play, run, laugh and interact with other children. My neighbors are friendly and I am a member of our civic association board so I am able to have an input in decisions to continue making my neighborhood a family oriented place. I want to raise my child here, and I want to walk him/her to school which is probably worth mentioning to you. I want you to know that I am planning to stay home the first 2-3 years. I want to raise my child and embrace all the good that it entails hands on. I don’t want to miss pivotal steps in their life like taking their first steps and smiling at me because they feel how much I love them.
Close friends advised me not to make this letter too long and so I will end by saying this. I 'thank you' for reading my letter, I 'thank you' for having this baby, and I 'thank you' for considering me to be his/her mom. I know that your mommy instincts will help you make the best decision for your child. I hope I am the one whom you trust to carry on in this journey of parenting.
With my warmest wishes, Alexandra